Is Woman Helping Woman

 

My son was intern in one of biggest hospital of India. He was posted in Haryana state.As we all know Haryana is famous for female foetecide.So much so that the sex ratio is 900  females to 1000 males.

My son's friend Suresh used to visit our house.It so happened he was from Haryana.Jokingly he will tell me," dear aunty I can not get a good match to marry, as girl who was destined to marry me was killed in female foeticide drive of Haryana." I used to feel sad for him but had no courage to express my sadness in front of him.

My son was posted in Haryana as an intern, and at 2.30 in the night a woman came with labor pains.

The protocol demands that doctor on duty to do a per vaginal examination and decide whether to admit or refer depending upon the effacement/dilatation of the cervix/previous history.

The woman was in labor was accompanied by  her mother in law  and sister in law at 2.30 in night. My son was the only doctor on duty and their first demand was  - they want a female doctor.

When they realized that my son was the only doctor on duty, they finally agreed to have an examination done by my son.

The woman in labor was sufficiently dilated and my son  asked the nurses to admit her.

 It was her first child.As luck would have it, woman  gave birth to girl child.

Their concerned faces(the mother in law and her sister) who only wanted a female doctor to examine her suddenly turned upside down.They told my son ‘If it was a male child, it would have been less painful for the mother with the labor pains and less painful for us too’

The same mother in law and sister in law who were refusing her(the woman with labour pain) to be examined by a male doctor(my son) and wanted a female doctor  to examine their daughter in law now suddenly were sad that she gave birth to a female child.

My son told me above listed story.I at once remember dear Suresh my son's good friend

I immediately thanked God being so nice to this universe and for creating male and female in equal ratio.I am so much worried if this equal ratio is distorted what will happen to this universe----God only knows

Sukarma Thareja

 Alumnus IITK 1986

India

Expecting more From Teachers-----

 

I was studying in very good school. Teachers were very good to students.
We used to get lot of academic projects which were to be completed in
fixed time. Mostly we used to take help of internet to complete projects.

But we had many friends whose parents used to help them a lot in finishing
those projects. Some time I used to feel dejected thinking, I wish my parents
could help us in doing so. But my parents used to encourage us to be
independent while doing those projects. That habit which my parents
inculcated in me has come long way with me. I find I remain happy by doing
everything in my life by myself. I have no expectations from others. I
Think that is a simple formula to remain happy in life.

Now I have grown old, same habit I try to inculcate in my students and my
own children.

Moral of story is friends that  there are
students who are afraid of examination results.They are those students who expect more
from examiner and teachers rather than from themselves.

Sukarma Thareja

Alumnus IITK

India

Does Walking Routine- Helps me

Its my fortune that I am able to carry out research work with help of my able students.

 I was talking to my students after my "research result progress meeting". This meeting 

 hold every week. After this meeting I told my students okay  students its time for my

  evening walk.Every day I take a break from my  work and go for a walk for an hour.

Students told me that they appreciate my evening walk. I told students  that what I 

started as a desperate attempt to lose my  weight has now  become a habit that is an

 integral part of my life.

I told my students,it is amazing!. On my way I see  

 plants,trees, birds, butterflies, dogs, squirrels, the sky,

plants,trees, birds, butterflies, dogs, squirrels, the sky, 

clouds, etc. ).

Best part of this walking is Friends no gadgets, no 

tracking of distance/time/heart rate etc. 

What one need is just a pair of good shoes, comfortable

 clothes, a waist pouch to keep my phone so that I walk

 hands-free.

Friends I literally walk through an orchestra  and music 

of  nature, presented by the birds and insects!! .I often 

pair this with the sight of the glorious sunset, and I make 

my day . 

Friends everyday, I look forward to that hour, wherein I 

observe as much Nature as I can.

I note down the questions I get, and seek answers. 

Questions like “What is the connection between butterfly 

and monsoon?” “What is the pattern of a honeybug?”

 “What happens to trees during cyclones?”  I get back 

home and research ,With all this I am able to learn all 

about carbon sequestration.I also wrote one poem how 

whale contribution in carbon reduction process.

The behavior of birds and insects, why “tree-plantation 

drives” don’t even come close to replacing a tree being

 cut down, how clouds form patterns everyday, etc. 

Sometimes I pause, capture birds chirping, a snail moving 

on a leaf, near hedge of tulsi plants, a butterflies flitting. 

All this has made my life beautiful and meaningful, of 

course I have lost 3 Kg weight. With passage of time I 

 have many female cute friends who believe in walking,

We often wave at each other while doing eco walk and 

exchange our greetings. Everyday I thank all mighty for 

giving me strength to do so.

Regards

Sukarma Thareja

Alumnus IITK

India

Spectrum, Dimension of life

 Life is like a dream. Some time one faces realities in life which correlates with ones dreams. It is possible to keep ones realities of life in one line like spectrum of light..Extreme end of reality of ones life is "very difficult life "best example is life of ones wife. 

Other end of spectrum of life is" easy life" best example is life of alcohal drunk person. 

Along with spectrum of life one get chance to peep into many dimensions of life. Some of them which I happen to peep into are being listed below. 

My friends who is saint ,peeping in his life make me feel that let me donate everything materialistic in life. 

My friend who is political leader, peeping in his life make me feel that what ever I have studied so far is useless

My friend who is business man, peeping in his life make me feel that I have earned very less money in my life. 

My friend who is scientist, peeing in his life make me feel that  all evils which I do have in life is because I have too less knowledge. 

My friend who is army personal, peeping in his life make me feel that I have made too less sacrifices in my life. 

My good friend, peeping in his life make me feel I am happiest person in life. 

Sukarma Thareja

Alumnus IITK

India

return gift in birthday 😂party justifieffjustifief

 For every child birthday celebration is occasion to look forward to. At every age children have something special which they love to eat,example pizza, potato chips, cup cakes are their favourite estables. These eatables have hardly any nutritions in them.

It's ok to give children some special experiences at their birthday party. But over emphasizing on material gift or return gift do not add any new experience to children who have come to party for fun. 

Looking back at that landfill of plastic return gifts,- only things that stand out is children play with them for while and those return gifts become garbage

Moral of story is friends for children birthday party is for fun and let us not decrease its fun part by adding return gift. 

Sukarma Thareja

Alumnus IITK 1986

India

Is it wrong to do Nine-Five(9-5 ) Job

 

My friend satish is in 9-5 job. His salary is pretty good. He is happy with his job. 

Satish's brother Akash work in MNC company which does not follow 9-5 timings. Akash earns much more than Satish. 

Satish has big family to support and he does not want to take risk by changing his job. There are many people like Satish who are trapped in big family problems regarding money etc. So they look for constant income per month and with this philosophy they run their complicated family peacefully. 

Akash is unmarried person. He can take risks regarding his earning. Therefore Akash keep hoping his job and try to fetch maximum money as his salary. 

Now question arises what's wrong in being an average man and leading a peaceful life with 9-5 job. Some time taking risk to become a big industrialist can put one in odd circumstances. 

Problem is not there if one wishes to achieve higher goals. Problem lies if one does not respect persons doing 9-5 job. 

One should remember there is possibility one is earning much higher than average man but he is still unhappy. This is situation which one should take care before criticising persons doing 9-5 job and are leading peaceful life. 

Moral of story is one should focus on living peaceful happy life, may it is 9-5 job Or other job. 

Sukarma Thareja

Alumnus IITK 1986

India

 

Why in Society people in General are not Happy

 

Other day I was talking to my senior teacher  Mr. Nandi.

Mr. Nandi is motivational speaker.He told me why people in general seem to be unhappy.

His submissions were following.

In society people don’t believe in simple life.People believe in spending extra money in activities which are not very useful in life. Because of all these activities there is lot of pretension in every ones life.Therefore people are unhappy.Due to mobile phone, there is so much interference in everybody’s life.Therefore people are disappointed.

In India there were never so much money was spent in celebrating birthdays of children. Now along with birthday celebration people spend so much money in gifts also.That creates tension among families.

Because  of science and technology advancement world has become very small. Carona virus  also taught us hoarding money also sometime do not help anyone.But attraction toward money has not decreased in world.

Moral of story is -best is to lead simple life.Be God fearing.Follow your passion to get peaceful life.Please remain away from pump and show in ones life. Enjoy ones life.

Sukarma Thareja

Alumnus IITK

India