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Track of Space and Time Domain at Home

I am a science teacher in a government school. I help my mother run the kitchen and of course house also as and when I have time to do so.

My mother went to my maternal uncle’s house for 15 days. In that period I realised how much endless planning Mother does for running the house.

How my mother gets energy for this endless planning, remembering each thing to be needed for carrying out household activities and organizing events. It was so exhausting in so many ways for me I never understood before.

It was real #education for me. I had to keep #track of groceries, vegetables and fruits. There were so many different categories of mental load inside my brain even when I was teaching in school.

I had to book a gas cylinder for the kitchen to be delivered to my house. I had to collect stitched clothes for my mother from the tailor. I had to collect a dance dress for my youngest sister from school. I had to keep track of my father’s medicine.

Is my father taking all his medicines on time? Is help at home taking care of my father’s food? I had a list of infinite things in my head. I had to keep track of so many dates that I had to follow for some important domestic or office event. As a student of physics, I must say, that I had to keep track of space and time domains relevant to me and my family.

My friends said, “When your mother is out for a few days you look so #anxious.”

In the heart of my heart, I used to tell myself alas! I could describe the inner #dynamics of my emotions to someone dear to me. To whom? I had no proper answer. I only wished I could share with someone my mental #agony.

Those 15 days when my mother was absent from her duties I realized there’s a significant difference between #assisting my mother and #managing an event alone. I was a single soul doing the same, and I was forced to take on the management role.

Now I have realized mental hardness is much more difficult than #physical hardness. I have no words to describe the same.

Inside my heart, I thank my mother from the core of my #heart for allowing me to learn the difference between managing and assisting an event in life.

Managing the event of the house/ office is different from assisting the same. Managing whole family events involves leading and directing the whole family and controlling resources. Assisting family events involves supporting family members by performing specific tasks and giving information.

The experience mentioned above is the knowledge I shared with my students to make them realize that working in different roles in life gives lifetime experiences.

Moral- Essentially, managers make decisions and oversee operations, while assistants provide support and carry out instructions.

Never hesitate to play role of Manager or assistant when opportunity arises.

Are you assisting mother at home in running house.?Please keep doing.

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🇮🇳 Hindi: Kishor Chetna
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🇺🇸 English 1: Making Science Easy - Photo Poetry
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🇺🇸 English 2: Science of Life and Nature - Photo Poetry
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Dyamics of Married Life in Raising child

I am a science teacher in a government school. My friend Gita recently got married. After two years of marriage, she is #blessed with a daughter Minni.

Gita said” Madam my husband is a gentleman, but he refuses to change his style of living after marriage. Therefore I have made a lot of changes in my style of living. After Minni is born, I am a mom first and #wife later in sense I feel that as a mother my responsibility towards my child is sometimes more than my responsibility towards my #husband.”

I said,” Please be bold my friend, now you will face the hard truth of life after #marriage which is correlated with the hardships of married life after having a kid.”

I said “I do realize like most husbands, Gita your husband is comfortable in rolling around as he was before marriage. He is happy being a father but does not think that it is his #duty to help you in raising a child.”

Gita said “Madam I feel my relationship with my husband after having a kid is not #intense to that level what I had before having a kid. I feel that my husband feels neglected after arrival on Minni.”I said to Gita” That is the brutal truth of life, after marriage sometimes the husband feels #neglected.”

Gita further said” Madam after marriage and kid, I have ended up doing the lion’s share of the work. I am doing most of the parenting, most of the planning and #scheduling of family life. I am planning most of the housework, shopping, the cooking etc.”

I said, “Dear Gita I do realize you feel disrespected, unappreciated, let down, and therefore you always have resentful feelings.”

I further said” Gita please be bold and face it. You are working #mom and you have to do most of the work at home, as this is a tradition in Indian #families."

Gita had a very wise sister in- law Sita. She visited her brother- bhabhi's house with her mother Radha. Sita said,” Dear brother and bhabhi please do not try to make your #post-kid marriage dynamics equal to pre-kid marriage life #dynamics.”

She further said,” The trick is to create new marriage dynamics, which should be full of love, #appreciation, and respect, for each other, within the post-kid dynamics of life.”

Gita’s mother-in-law Radha said “Please realise son! Your child Minni is a tender soul, who requires a lot # of patience, and the non-stop hard work of living within a family system without a lot of help from outside.”

Gita’s mother-in-law further said “‘Please do realize there is nothing like having a little #blissful family of your own. Please do not mind if you have to put in a lot of hard work, and do not hesitate to be in constant communication with each other. Please do share your feelings, and try to make your #spouse happy. Finally, do not let your spouse upset. So keep it up. Enjoy life.The best is to learn how to mend your life as and when required. “

Gita is so thankful to her sister-in-law who gave wisdom, to her(Gita) and her husband about how to lead blissful family dynamics after having a kid.

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Respect Each Drop of Water

In my family lot of importance is given to clean water in life. It is respected like #God of house.

My grand mother used to say ” clean water is price less . It should not be wasted at any cost. Each child of house is suppose to clean his/ her #dishes after eating food, to save clean water.”

Every child of house was trained to wash his/ her own garments after taking #bath.

In this exercise kitchen always gave clean look and water wastage was also #less.

In RO system of cleaning water rejected water comes out during purification.Rejected water can be reused for non- drinking purposes in many ways. In my home rejected water coming out from water #purifier, RO apparatus was collected and used through pipes to clean toilet, bathrooms and staircase of house.

My mother used to say ” water is essential comedity of life , there is no point saving it in terms of water or #electricity bill. Water is price less and so essential for life, therefore every effort is required to save water in house.”

While watering garden it was seen that water never over #flows from water beds. Sometimes RO rejected water was used for watering plants of our garden.

To my students I always say ” students! you are lucky for drinking water you can afford to bring clean water in bottle. But if we keep wasting water at this rate what we are doing today, then in future people will have to drink #clean water in drops.Therefore please do not waste or dirty water with your actions. Do something good to protect water #wastage so that coming generation respect you for same.”

I am trying my best to transfer values given by my parents to save water to my #kids and students. I hope they will do every effort to conserve water resources and ecosystem in each step of their life journey.

Moral -Water

🇺🇸 English 1: Making Science Easy - Photo Poetry
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Mistakes to Avoid in Friendship

In school, myself and Radha were close #friends. We used to discuss our personal level #problems along with day-to-day problems we faced, in the academic world -in each chapter -each subject.

In our friendship bond, we used to #respect each other Very much. I will always bring an extra sandwich/ parantha for my friend for lunch. Radha will bring extra Dosa, and idli for me for lunch. Very fondly we used to share lunch.

Our interest in co-curricular activities was also on the same frequency. The debate was our favorite co-curricular activity. We both will sit and structure our speeches. We used to learn classical #music from the same teacher.

I got admission to a good university college for a B.Sc (Hons) degree. My friend Radha did coaching for the NEET examination and got admission to one of the good #medical colleges in the city.

Life of both friends(myself-Radha) was very busy in our respective #colleges. We could hardly get time/opportunity to meet each other in person. That was not the time of #mobile phones also. Therefore only communication was through the exchange of #letters.

As luck would have it, I met Radha after 5 years. Radha was a general #physician now and was planning to join in good hospital as a physician. I was about to join the #Ph.D program in a good institution.

I was very happy to meet Radha but I found she is a different person altogether. Her political and personal beliefs were entirely different from mine.

I did realize that all this difference in their personality of Radha was all because of the people she was surrounded by in medical college, the books she read the news consumed and the movies she watched were much different from mine. Therefore though in our lives we were together at some point now we were #driffted apart from that point. It was positive in a way that we were different individuals with unique personality traits. The only thing common was our past experiences, we shared them. We had sweet #memories of those unique experiences.

Now when I look back I find, I still have sweet memories of my friend Radha with me.

Radha is stelled in the US now. Sometimes we do exchange pleasant messages but we never try to impose our old #friendship on each other. Of course, we both respect each other.

It so happens Sometimes husband /wife makes this mistake in their relationship. One expects other person to be the same or change on the same #frequency as he/ she is #changing. This is not always possible. The best is to #accept and respect each other even if you have a difference of opinion and grow in life.

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Sukarma Thareja
I write to make Science easy through Poetry & Photos

📚 Books:
Hindi: Kishor Chetna
https://www.amazon.in/dp/B077H5MBSW

English 1: Making Science Easy
https://share.google/Iq6osO6YeHCYvfXYj

English 2: Science of Life and Nature
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1521260060

✍️ Blog: https://sukarmathareja.blogspot.com/?ncr=1

Journey of Success Contribution to Relationship bridges

I am school teacher in government school. Rani was very hardworking student of my school . She had good analytical brain. She was very good in number calculations.When I had to collect extra fee other than regular fee from #student of my class, Rani used to help me a lot. Since fee was to be collected from student under different categories . First information is to be collected, if particular student belong to general #category or special category. Another thing which is to be taken care was annual salary of parents whose wards were paying fee in my class.

After school myself and Rani used to sit and recheck all calculations and will deposit fee cash in bank.

I used to advise Rani to try for #bank examination after her graduation. Many students from ourschool applied for bank clerk grade examination. Rani was the only student from our school who got national level #examination cleared in first attempt. I was so happy for Rani and her achievement.

After two years I got good news that Rani has become bank #officer. One day I met Rani in bank.Up to my surprise Rani was as gentle and mature as before. She had grown up as smart lady. Now she was so much into computer operations and she knew all rules of (old and new) of finances #banking.

I was very happy for Rani. Few days back, after so many years I got message that dear Rani has become bank officer in #SBI United Kingdom.

Once Rani came to India from United Kingdom she met me and said “Madam I have paid #price for my success. I feel due to this achievement I have lost many good #friends in this journey. Many relationship bridges I made during my teenage are not on my map of my journey to #success.

Of course I have made many good new friends and learnt many new #skills during my journey. But my inner soul do sometimes search for my old friends with whom I had such emotional strong #bonds.

I said ” dear Rani life never goes in straight line. It changes with time.You do see many ups and down. Please for go them and walk toward your goals with #confidence determination. “

As teacher I was so happy for Rani for getting such a brilliant success in life.

I as teacher realised that we must work toward making strong EQ of students.

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Moral-Strong IQ and strong EQ are two important traits of personality