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Chasing Relationship

I am a science teacher in a government school.

The other day, I was talking to my students about mental health issues. I said "Psychiatric" refers to the branch of medicine dealing with mental disorders, and a psychiatric clinic, also known as a mental health clinic or hospital, is a specialized facility where psychiatrists and other mental health professionals diagnose and treat these conditions."

My friend Asha is a psychiatrist. She runs her own private clinic.

I had invited Asha to my school. I had a meaningful talk with Asha. The same I am listing below for my respected readers.

Asha said, " Dear friend, in my clinic, I see people chase all sorts of things. They chase the next big business venture that they wish in their dream of. Persons dealing in drugs are always looking/chasing for new drugs that will fetch them good money. Of course, for them, it is the big win. Some young boys and girls are always chasing the next great relationship, which they think will suit their dream parameters for a relationship."

I said " Dear Asha, chasing has been associated and correlated with a need for the hormone dopamine. But research findings suggest, the more we chase the more we want!. Since there is no saturation point in the process, you are always looking for more. This process never gives you a peaceful life."

Asha said, " Dear Madam, when chasing happens in a relationship, it is rarely a sign that you are part of a balanced and mutually satisfying relationship. Rather, it tends to be a symptom of imbalance. It is a chaser who is in stress and failing to see her/his own worth."

I said, " Dear Asha, I really wish I could persuade a few such people (chasers) to take control of their behaviour and channel their energy into relationships where there is no need for chasing. These are relationships that will nourish you and be reflective of your emotional investment."

Asha said, "In my clinical area of expertise, I find some customers believe in the phenomenon of chasing, which is highly destructive. A gambler enjoys the anticipation and buildup of the gamble, but most probably, most of the time, he/she ends up on a destructive path."

I said, " Dear Asha, I think in case of a relationship, we must build our bridges and boundaries with Empathy, Humility, and Respect. Then only more dopamine will be recreated in the body, which will make us happy."

I further said, "To get more dopamine in the body, instead of chasing a person, we must work on our skills and use our energy in seeking good relationship traits in ourselves. That exercise will build a strong relationship bridge."

Asha said, " Dear Madam, I often tell my patients that in case of building a relationship, every moment in life there is an opportunity to learn something new. Every day is a class that teaches you how to use a new tool, because life is a school."

I said, " Building relationships is a strange program that is messy and amazing, and equally filled with facts and untruths. "

Asha said, "We must know that relationships of value must be constructed on a strong and stable foundation. We have to feel like we are heard, and our partner is capable of giving us space. We have to know that if there is a problem, we can say what we need to say, without it ruining life."

Asha further said, "This is important to know that weak friendships have no future. If the foundation of relationships is weak, how can we expect our partner to be in our corner when we need them most? How can we expect them to give us the snacks we need to eat when we are hungry?

Moral - There is no point chasing people to build a relationship. Meaningful friendships must have a solid and strong foundation of empathy, humility, and respect.

Sukarma Thareja

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In every individual if there is equilibrium between intelligence, emotions and creating arts.It means that has touched equlilibrium between philosophy, neuroscience and literature.That makes society human.

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Lipstick free Stomach

I am lipstick,

Woman love me,

An average women eats,

27 pounds of me,

In her life time.

Where does lipstick (I) go,

Asked daughter to her mother,

In stomach,

Replied dear mom.

But men are lucky,

They hardly use lipstick,

For grooming ,

Congratulations men,

Your stomach is free,

from 27 pound lipstick.

Said dear daughter.

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True love is not found.It is built in small delta steps.It resides in delta surrenders at a time .Do not feel sad if it does not come back.

It is best and optimum path for human survivor and peaceful life.

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Listening vs Reading

I am a science teacher in a government school.

To make my class interesting to students, I try my best to explain scientific facts to school students in the world of fiction. That is amazing for the teacher and the taught. Sometimes I could do it comfortably, but it needs more attention. Friends, please understand, specific part of the regions of the brain is used for reading fiction. The same is involved in social understanding and storytelling.

One key area of the brain that benefits from reading fiction is the prefrontal cortex, located right behind your forehead. This region is crucial for higher-level thinking, like planning, decision-making, and understanding other people's perspectives. When we immerse ourselves in a novel, this part of the brain becomes more active.

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Nonfiction texts, on the other hand, rely on a brain network. Nonfiction tends to rely more on the prefrontal cortex of brain to process factual information and integrate it with existing knowledge. That's why reading fiction is easier than nonfiction texts."

I further said, "Neuroscience confirms it’s not just what we learn but how we engage with it that is important. "

My student Radhe said, "Madam, reading sharpens retention, while listening enriches emotional connection. Blending both feels like upgrading the brain’s learning software."

I said, " Dear students, reading matters a lot in the learning process. Even when listening is an option. Each activity offers something different, and they are not interchangeable."

I further said, "When you read, your brain is working hard behind the scenes. It recognizes the shapes of letters, matches them to speech sounds, connects those sounds to meaning, then links those meanings."

Radhe said, " Madam people often listen while doing other things, like exercising, cooking or browsing the internet — activities that would be hard to do while reading."

I further said, "Reading often wins for deep understanding, especially with complex or new topics. Listening works too, but reading lets you revisit, reflect, and hold onto ideas differently."

Radhe said, " Madam, when we listen, our ears receive sound stimuli, and our brain begins to interpret these sounds.Hence, listening is a process primarily involving the prefrontal cortex for complex cognitive functions. "

I said, "The Prefrontal cortex is the primary part of the brain responsible for processing sound and spoken language. Within the auditory cortex are the primary, secondary, and tertiary auditory areas, which handle different aspects of sound processing, such as pitch, music, and speech."

Radhe said, "Madam, it is very fascinating how our brains respond so differently to the two activities of reading and listening ".

I said, "Deep reading makes us more empathetic. As we let go of the emotional and mental chatter found in the real world, we enjoy deep reading that allows us to feel what the characters in a story feel. And this in turn makes us more empathetic to people in real life, becoming more aware and alert to the lives of

Moral - Reading and listening are important in the teaching and learning process. Both activities are connected to different parts of the brain. Both activities mentioned are not interchangeable.

Noise vs Silence

I am a science teacher in a government school. The other day, I was talking to my students about the difference between noise and silence.

My student Saroj said, "Madam, according to knowledge of physics, there is a big difference in frequency of 'noise' and the frequency of # 'silence".

I said, " Dear students, subject physics makes a distinct difference in the frequency of noise and the frequency of silence." I further said, "When a person #hits another person with a stick, there is noise that is #generated. But when #God hits person with a stick, there is silence or no noise created."

I further said, "Friends do take care of #bridges in life formed in terms of #relationship, #friendship and by keeping #promise. Please! Friends never break these precious bridges of life. If they happen to get broken in life in certain circumstances, they will not create noise in life. On the contrary, they will create silence in life. Which is very #painful."

Saroj said, "Noise is the presence of sound, typically perceived as loud, unpleasant, or disruptive, while silence is the absence of sound."

Rakesh said, " Noise is characterized by frequency and loudness, whereas silence is the state of having no or very low-intensity audible sound."

Saroj said, " While noise is often a disruptive external experience, silence offers an internal focus, promoting self-reflection and a deeper connection to one's internal processes."

I said, " Friends, when you are in silent mode, everything dissolves like snow on a mountain."

Rakesh said, " We need a place to be away from noise so that we can get peace in the inner world "

Saroj said, "In silence

The healing process begins

and creative thoughts take their concrete path."

I further said, "Friends' silence is the language of God, and the divine enters us when we are in a silent mode. It illuminates our hearts.

Loud noise is harmful and can trigger stress responses and interfere with sleep and overall health. "

Moral -Silence is often sought for relaxation and focus, while noise can be stressful and tax our brains.

Silence is the language of God. While noise triggers stress.

Choosing Kindness

The other day, I was talking to my students about how to get our mindset for the act of kindness.

I said, " Friends we cannot control everything that happens to us, but we can control how we face it, and when things shake or become more complicated, we must always choose kindness and gratitude!"

I said, "Friends sometimes make mistakes about kindness. People think that since a person is kind/they will let her/him self get walked on by everyone.”

Sudesh said, "And on the opposite end, it’s easy to mistake 'only be kind to people who are kind to you' as 'give people the cold shoulder unless they earn your kindness!”.

I said, " Judge kindness by your energy. Invest where your energy will be put to use the best."

Ram Said, "I tend to invest in people until I realize that they aren’t interested in growing with me. I’ll have a conversation with him/her until I realize all he wants is an argument, then I’ll leave and go somewhere else. "

I said, "It’s not being 'unkind, ' it’s me reserving my energy for people who actually want to grow together."

I further said, "My main objective is to make sure another person’s lack of kindness doesn’t cause me to become hardened and unkind to others."

Radhe said, "It can happen very easily: You encounter a couple of cruel people here and there, you may conclude, 'People are just cruel!” And then you approach everyone with hard feelings, with anticipation of being abused by them, and you start spreading the same cruelty you’re trying to avoid. It’s a twisted cycle."

Rakesh said, "How to cultivate a kind mindset."

I said," Be kind to yourself."

Radhe said, "Extend the same compassion and understanding to yourself that you offer to others, especially during challenging times. But be careful! People may not take you for a ride, thinking that since you believe in kindness therefore you will get mistaken for their constructed emotional story."

I said, "Practice letting go of grudges to foster inner peace and kindness. "

Saroj said, "Madam, being kind to others gives you cool. When you help your friend, your happiness will never end."

I said, "Every bit of kindness, like giving a smile or helping hand, etc., you give to others one or other days will come back to you in one form or another."

Moral -Kindness is a way of life. But be careful in the act of kindness, you do not get cheated. Cultivate the virtue of kindness by helping needed person at the right time.

Sukarma Thareja

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