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Handling Relationship

I am science teacher in government school. My student Naresh is well placed in #MNC.

Other day Naresh came to my house. He said "madam I am happy with my job . My parents are #searching for decent girl for me to get #married. At present situation I am in #relationship and I am finding it hard to #handle same. I think soon I will come out of this relationship. "

I said "Dear student please understand partner is someone who sometimes can #steal all your comforters and snores. A partner can also sometimes be stubborn.You have to accept moments of #silence until hearts and minds are #cleared by #forgiving each other.

I further said "Being in a relationship also means swallowing hard words instead of saying them out #loud and #hurting the other one. Being in a relationship you should understand that even the #hard times bring the most beautiful gifts. Therfore have #patience during hard time."

I further added " If you are lucky Naresh,you could have #magic partner in life, having someone in your life who still cares for you despite your #flaws and #imperfections. If that is the case please respect her. Some time people make #mistake of taking that jewel for granted"

My student Naresh said " madam now I realize loving someone is not always easy, sometimes it's even very hard."

I said "never foget , it's one of the best things you can experience in your life. Please handle relationship with great care and respect. Build trust.You will enjoy life."

Sukarma Thareja
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Rise above Pain

I Am a science teacher in a government school. Radha and Suman were good students in my class.

Radha and her family were socially well #connected. It so happened Radha was able to fill out the national #scholarship exam through the website on the internet. But Suman, poor girl #failed to submit the form for the same scholarship exam, because of some technical #shortcomings in her computer. Suman was hurt deeply for the same. She had a hard #grudge in her mind for the same happening. I requested Suman please let things go. You can't change what happened.

Meanwhile, the school got information for another scholarship national test. Radha and Suman both filled out forms and based on interview, both got #selected for the scholarship. I said, "I am happy, Suman you kept #courage, believed in your #destiny and you chose not to let this happening to change you in negative direction."

I further said "I am happy, Suman you did not let pain overcome you. You had put brave front. Yes, I agree some things hurt us deeply bring us down, and tempt us to hold onto grudges. But let those things go. You can’t change what happened, but you can choose not to let it change you. Don’t allow pain to define who you are."

Suman said" Madam of course! I suffered setbacks from negative happening in my life. As advised by you madam I kept a positive #attitude learned from my experience and sought new opportunities in life."

Moral: Pains do come in life.Face challenges with courage. But rise above pain.

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Sukarma Thareja

I write to make Science easy through Poetry & Photos 📸📖

🌐 Website: https://sites.google.com/site/drsukarmaranithareja/home
📝 Blog: https://sukarmathareja.blogspot.com/?ncr=1

📚 My Books:
🇮🇳 Hindi: Kishor Chetna
https://www.amazon.in/dp/B077H5MBSW

🇺🇸 English 1: Making Science Easy - Photo Poetry
https://share.google/Iq6osO6YeHCYvfXYj

🇺🇸 English 2: Science of Life and Nature - Photo Poetry
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1521260060

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Life like Festival Pious

This life is like a #festival pious

Some wise people hold our #hand,

But in fair of life that bridge of hands gets lost,

One lives life with those sweet memories ,

But with time those sweet memories,

Get entangled in chaos of life,

And life goes on on-'-

For an individual,

Life becomes unique event,

It brings people together around shared passions,

Passion could be artistic,

Cultural or religious.

Life become festival pious.

Life becomes religious Festivals

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Things to avoid in life

I Used to live in a joint family. There was a lot of fun for the kids, as we had the company of so many cousins brothers and sisters.

Fortunately, my youngest aunt Usha, was a school teacher, the other four aunts were homemakers. As a kid, I used to observe that my four aunts who were homemakers used to make kind #inquiries about Aunt Usha who was teaching in school very often. Example Where is Aunt Usha .?

There was a lot of #anxiety at home when Aunt Usha's friend used to visit our home. I was a kid, I did not understand why Usha Aunty's activities were talked about and chased so critically in the house.As I grew older, I realized that Usha Aunty activities are being chased by other aunts who were makers. I never used to appreciate my other four aunts behavior.

I am an adult now, I understand there is no gain in chasing person x activities. It is better to learn some new #skills from a person whose skills are better than you. Sometimes it is better to spend that chasing time learning new skills.

Moral - It is good to chase the goals of your life. Avoid wasting time chasing people.

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People Who Make Difference in Life

Some of my friends had the myth that persons who have many good #credentials and #money in life will make #difference in their life. Some of my friends used to make great efforts and would go out of their way to please them.

My mother said "It is not true that people with many credentials and a lot of money will always make a difference in your life. They may, or may not. They simply are those who love you, like you and want to see you happy and rising in life. They can be poor, they can be rich."

Moral --love your friends dear and near ones #deeply. Be #generous with yourself, with your #time, with your love. It’s all that matters.

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Litmus Test of Life

Litmus test of life

My grand mother and grand father were great friends to each other

My grandfather was retired teacher.But he has lot of patience and was soft spoken for every one.but he was very sarcastic and short tempered for his wife my dadi. When I was upset with my Dada behavior toward my dadi but could not express my anger toward my Dada.

Now I am adult and now I realise why was his behavior was different for my dadi.why was dadi so patient with his rude behavior.

Simple answer was my dadi was living for family and extended family therefore had developed capacity of being patient.

People who are vocal like my dada and has tendency to control my dadi was actually living for himself not for others.

Both Dada and dadi were walking on same path but on opposite side of path.One path was to help other in real sense of word and other path to help other in order to control others. This is litmus test of life.

Conclusion is those who live for her/him self always spell out things.Sometimes dictate things.Those who live for others just remain quiet and absorbs sufferings.

Moral-Think that living for others (to help them) and living for others (to control them) is walking down different sides of the same path. Just live! And let others do the same for themselves.

Are you a controlling others to gain your ambitions?If yes please think it over.

Validation

We are human beings and in this high-tech world we are changing with time, therefore times we wish to seek #acceptance from others. It is good to get acceptance from a person of integrity, who is sure to give valid #suggestions. Such persons are rare to find.

But sometimes seeking acceptance is similar to people pleasing. Sometimes if you want a favor from x person to create goodwill you give an expensive present. But sometimes you constantly adjust yourself so that you get accepted by person x needs. This type of validation from person x is not good for you. It will make you weak and you will always look for someone else's validation. With this exercise sometimes you lose your #confidence also. The best is to seek your validation and make your #unique path of life."

Another day my student Ram said, "Madam I have a strong fear of not being rejected therefore I always look for my friend's validation ".

I said dear student" Some validation from friends is natural but see to it excessive reliance on external validation can negatively impact your personality. "

Are you also looking for validation from your friend?

Moral -The more you need person x validation, the more people look #down on you.

Keep your self-confidence high. Be careful some people give negative validation to make you look down on people around you.

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Handling Relationship

Rise above Pain

Life like Festival Pious

Things to avoid in life

People Who Make Difference in Life

Litmus Test of Life

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