Getting too much Involved in Others Problems

I am a science teacher in a government school. My senior teacher Kamla Ji has one daughter Radha. Kamla Ji is always worried about her daughter Radha. Her studies and her job are two issues Kamla Ji is always thinking about.

I said " Kamala di don't be up set about Radha. You are observing she has improved so much. She is doing so well in her job. Unnecessary you are worrying about Radha. It is taking a toll on your health. Kamla ji there is a thin line between 'when to worry' about Radha and when to stop doing so. Please do not mix both issues. Your such doings are going to have an impact on you as well as on Radha."

I further said" Kamla ji Radha is in good hands. She is blessed with #supportive in-laws and a cooperative husband. Let her grow in her family and in her profession also."

I further said " Kamalaji we have to be careful because there’s a fine line between supporting others and trying to “fix” others' problems. If you ever try to fix other people’s(daughters) problems or make yourself responsible for their happiness that is not going to help them. Let Radha handle her day-to-day problems herself. This process will make you and Radha strong and wise."

Kamla ji said "Dear madam your observation is right. I have a problem with my nature. While 'observing others' problems I get #absorbed in the same. This has an impact on my energy levels. They get depleted. This is not the right approach in life. With your kind support dear madam, I am trying to improve myself in this aspect. I am thankful to you dear madam for showing me the right path ".

I am so happy for dear Kamla ji my senior teacher for #accepting my suggestion.

Supporting others to solve their problems is different from fixing their problems. In fixing a problem process you are taking direct action to solve others problems. This way you are not giving others opportunities to learn themselves.

Are you trying to support your dear ones.Please help in solving their problems. Please do not try to fix their problems.

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Sukarma Thareja

I am a science teacher in government school. My senior teacher Kamla ji has one daughter Radha. Kamla ji is always worried about her daughter Radha. Her studies, her job are two issues Kamla ji is always thinking about.

I said " Kamala di don't be up set about Radha. You yourself is observing she has improved so much. She is doing so well in her job. Unnecessary you are worring about Radha .It is taking toll on your health. Kamla ji there is thin line between 'when to worry' about Radha and when to stop doing so. Please do not mix both issues.Your such doings is going to put impact on you as well as on Radha."

I further said" Kamla ji Radha is in good hands. She is blessed with #supportive in- laws and co- operative husband. Let her grow in her family and in her profession also."

I further said " Kamalaji we have to be careful, because there’s a fine line between supporting others and trying to “fix” others problems. If you ever try to fix other people’s(daughter) problems or make yourself responsible for their happiness that is not going to hhelp them. Let Radha handle her day to day problems herself. This process will make you and Radha strong and wise."

Kamla ji said " dear madam your observation is absolutely right. I have problem in my nature. While 'observing others problems I get #absorbed in same. This has impact on my energy levels.They get depleted. This is not right approach in life. With your kind support dear madam, I am trying to improve my self in this aspect. I am thankful to you dear madam for showing me right path " .

I am so happy for dear Kamla ji my senior teacher for #accepting my suggestion.

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Alumnus IITK

India

Your Worth

I am a science teacher in government school.I said " Dear Asha you are a maths teacher. Look dear you are trackling problem in wrong way. 1st step to your problem is that first you know your worth. If possible work on your personality and increase your #skills. Then next step to follow is to find a man worthy of you. Not the other way round that making you(woman that is you) worthy of man. I hope you understand this."

I further said "To make yourself worthy Asha please build high integrity in your personality. Please treat others with respect. Please try your best to have purposeful qualities and make healthy relationships in family.Contribute to your community by doing positive activities. All these activities can enhance your sense of value."

Asha and her family understood the concepts and worked seriously on their purposeful skills.Asha worked and contributed to community services and enhanced her sense of value.

Asha and her family understood where they were going wrong in handling problem. Within four months dear Asha found man worthy of her. She is happily married now.

Alumnus IITK

India

Dynamics of Spouse Bonding

I am a science teacher in a government school. Radha, a teacher at our school recently got married. She happens to be married in # a joint family.

Radha said "Madam my #husband expects that I should get up around 4. oo am in the morning and make breakfast for 10 people of the family before going to school. I am doing it, but I feel so #stressed out before coming to school."

I said " Radha I do understand your stress. You should also realize, that when you go to a new family after marriage there are a lot of #adjustments both partners have to make. Kindly accept it as a #challenge. I am sure, you will be able to do it. I must say this is also not the right time to say no to your husband. Gradually with time, he will also understand this activity is becoming #taxing on you."

Radha said, "I was also thinking on the same line madam".

I said " Radha, please! Never speak negatively about your spouse either to your friend or to your family. It may look casual thing but sometimes talking #negative about your spouse to your friends becomes complicated. It will lead to negativity in your relationship. Therefore when you find an appropriate time, please talk to your spouse about the difficulty you are facing. This will make the bond between you and your spouse #stronger.

Radha said" I know madam honest communication and trust are two major factors that contribute to the strong bond between any relationship. "

I said," The Same fundamental rule applies to the relationship between husband and wife."

Moral - Third-party involvement in the relationship of two partners(spouse) is always going to create negativity around them. Follow this most important rule in life.

Trust and communication are two important apps that make any relationship wonderful and strong.

Please avoid interference of 3rd party when you are establishing relationship.

Are you also too much interfering when two persons are in process of making relationship if so please avoid that.

Sukarma Thareja

I write to make Science easy through Poetry & Photos 📸📖

🌐 Website: https://sites.google.com/site/drsukarmaranithareja/home
📝 Blog: https://sukarmathareja.blogspot.com/?ncr=1

📚 My Books:
🇮🇳 Hindi: Kishor Chetna
https://www.amazon.in/dp/B077H5MBSW

🇺🇸 English 1: Making Science Easy - Photo Poetry
https://share.google/Iq6osO6YeHCYvfXYj

🇺🇸 English 2: Science of Life and Nature - Photo Poetry
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1521260060

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🙏 Thank you for reading!

Dual personality

Dual Personality

They think they are wise,

They change their face,

According to every challenge,

Like a broken bucket ,

No matter how much you fill,

It stays empty.

They believe if they keep changing faces,

No one will catch them,

But truth is...,

They are only cheating themselves.

The best way, my friend,

Is to face every challenge ,

With the same face,

Do not be cheater.

Moral is friend,

Be bold when you lose,

Be calm when you win.

Sukarma Thareja

Are you also living with a dual personality?

If yes, think twice.

Don't act while facing challenges.

Face them with peace and determination.

As you know a cheater will always remain cheater.

Own Mother

Mother to Own Mother

When I was young. I used to do so many big small mistakes. My mother used to teach me everything needful to face difficult situations in life. At that age I never realized that what a big protection shield I am blessed with in form of mother.

With age I realized that #life is not like mother. It will not embrace me in its arms as my dear mother used to do and it will not help me in difficult time.

I used to do self- talk. I said "dear you have to fight at every stage of life for your decent #survival. This survival is to be based on your own #skills You can never get #support system what your mother used to provide you. You need to fight and survive on your own and learn to be your #own mother.

Moral-Essentially at one point in life self-mothering is best option to live peaceful life.

When you become your own loving and supportive presence, you provide care and guidance you need to move forward.

Are you self mothering yourself.If not please do it.zIt is very essential for peaceful life.

Sukarma Thareja

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Letting go of Past Stories

I have a childhood friend Cukoo. She is now settled in the US. My friend has evolved as a beautiful person by accepting life changes peacefully.

The other day Cuckoo came into my dreams and said "Dear friend though both of us have wonderfully settled in our respective lives but dear friend it is so difficult to change and let go of small stories we two shared in our childhood".

I said, "Dear Cuckoo we humans are like a piece of fabric, made of hundreds of threads of stories we have been telling ourselves for our entire lives."

Cuckoo said "Dear friend the reason we are so afraid to let go of our stories is that as soon as we start letting go of one story, then another, the fabric that once made us confident is now being torn apart. We feel we are falling into nothingness. We start thinking gradually we will simply become empty."

I said, "Dear Cukoo as we try so hard to let those small stories of our lives go, we 8feel resistance building up in our bodies."

Cuckoo said, "Yes dear friend It’s so painful as if my self and you together are cutting away something valuable and significant from myself and yourself that is from our identity; something, which, at some point, has come to define me and you and our meaningful life."

I said " I and you are not whole or complete anymore, because the stories that we shared in childhood and adolescent age to make us complete are now slowly going away from us and we feel somewhat empty, we feel lost, and confused. To conclude suppressing our life

experiences is not a healthy trend in life."

I said Cukoo "Sometimes I choose to view those stories as shoes or clothes we used to share and exchange at certain phases of our lives. I am grateful to them as those stories, like clothes, protected us from heat and cold or, like shoes, they took us from place A to place B.

Cukoo said "Yet, it’s important to acknowledge that we have grown up. We have got married and have beautiful kids and of course, with time our bodies have changed."

I said "The clothes and shoes that once served us for important purposes, are not suitable for us any longer, they simply do not fit you or me "

Cukoo said, "Dear friend, we do not reject the idea that once we used to wear certain shoes or clothes, we embrace that fact till today and we are in peace with same."

I said "As I am letting go of my past stories, sometimes it’s so scary and takes so much of my courage. I feel if I may not reduce to zero for a while, and sit without knowing who I am. I further said" I am OK with not having any clear answer to the question “What is my story”

Cuckoo said" Dear friend do not feel scared. Now the time has come to start weaving a new fabric of our identity with the threads of new empowering stories from the US and India respectively."

Cuckoo further said, "But friend what’s different this time is that time has come we have new stories in life which wove our identity of you and me respectively."

I said, "In this modern era of science and technology due to our strong past experiences we will not resist changes in our lives and will accept the new stories and let them go gradually with time to accept change in life."

Moral- Let us embrace our new stories and gradually let them go with time. Let us be ready to change when the time to change will come.

Right life

Many ideas stick with me for right life

1.With time If we try to make life simpler it means we are moving toward right life.

2 With time our desire to buy materialistic things decrease it means we are moving toward right life.

3.With time if degree of contentment in personality increases we are moving toward right life.

4.With time we decrease our habit of comparing things we have or money we have ,we are moving toward right life.

5.With time if we feel happiness of others it means we are moving toward right life.

6.With time when we do not need vacation from our work it means we are moving toward right life.

Are you also following any one of indicator listed above to move toward right life?

Please comment.

Sukarma Thareja

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Getting too much Involved in Others Problems

Your Worth

Dynamics of Spouse Bonding

Dual personality

Own Mother

Mother to Own Mother

Letting go of Past Stories

Right life

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