My friend Rekha does night duty at an IT company . Her husband is a gentleman. Rekha's husband does day duty in another company. It so happened that Rekha had to help her mother-in-law with day-to-day chores during the daytime. When her husband comes back home, she has to help her mother in law in a little task for preparing dinner. Somehow, Rekha hardly gets any rest in the daytime. Of course, she has to do night duty at the office.
On the phone, my dear student Rekha said, "I do not understand, Madam, why I always feel exhausted. "
I said, "Dear Rekha, mathematics involved in your day-to-day life #dynamic is very simple. You are working at night and therefore you should get a full 8 hours rest during the daytime. But somehow you are not able to set your boundaries, therefore please put request at the home front that I need 8 hours rest to work #efficiently at home and #work front. To do so, please request your mother-in-law to arrange for #extra help for day-to-day work from outside. Presently, you are putting your stress under the carpet and trying your best to fulfill all duties assigned to you. In this process, you are putting yourself physically and emotionally under stress. Please stop doing this."
Rekha said, "I understand that, Madam, you are telling me the truth about my day-to-day dynamics of my life. I have no courage to spell out my problem at home front that I have limited energy and therefore will be able to do only limited work at home front."
I said, "Dear Rekha, it is high time you settle issues involving in your situation, and please unnecessarily don't put yourself in #stress. Please do not try to become superwoman. Otherwise, my dear friend, you will buy some physical health issues. Which is not good for your personal health and for your family".
After two months, I got a phone call from dear Rekha, and she said, "Madam, slowly I am taking little steps for my self-care. It is helping me a bit. Sometimes I do say no to some activities of my daily life. That saves my time, and I utilize that time in self-care. Thank you very much for your kind advice."
I said, "Dear Rekha, please concentrate on self-care and the health of all family members and save yourself from unnecessary showbiz exercises. I know it is very difficult for women to do so. But I am sure one can try least. One never know , sometimes a little action taken for a stress-free life may come in the right direction".
Rekha said, "I say no to some #activities of my daily life. That saves my time, and I utilize that time in # self-care. Thank you very much for your kind advice."
I said, "Dear Rekha, please #concentrate on self-care and the health of all family members and save yourself from #unnecessary showbiz #exercises. I know it is very difficult for women to do so. But I am sure one can try least. One never knows, sometimes a little action taken for a # stress-free life may come in the right direction."
Moral-Woman's physical and mental well-being is correlated with her self-care. To implement the same, please do not hesitate to say no to some activities at the home front if circumstances compel one to do so.
Sukarma Thareja
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