Set your boundries for self respect

I am teaching science  in government  school.

My student Raju said "Madam boundaries are not like walls; they help you have better relationships. If something bothers you, speak up! Staying quiet can make people think you’re okay with it."

I said "Dear student your feelings are important, and you should be listened to. If someone doesn’t respect your boundaries, it shows they don’t really respect you, and that’s not love. Bridging  relationship strong is going to be difficult  exercise."

 I further  said "Always remember to value your own independence. You are a complete person before being a partner. A strong relationship means you grow together while still being yourself."

Raju said "Madam individual independence  is very important  in healthy relationship  bridge.If some people do not respect your boundaries, some how you must spell out the same."

I said "Dear student self-respect is very important. Show people how to treat you by setting limits on what you will accept."

I further said " Dear student every mathematical  problem has boundry conditions one must follow the same to get meaningful solution."

Raju said "Madam  you are right, when establishing relationship  bridge both sides should clearly define their boundary  conditions and at the same time both should be clear and must respect about boundary conditions of each other .This process is best way to build trust in relationship. "

Are you building relationship  bridge?If yes please concentrate  on boundary conditions of both parties involved  in building  relationship. 

Sukarma Thareja 

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Over sharing

My student Ram believes in oversharing his feelings and activities in life. 

 Ram said "Madam I used to do overdharing of my ideas and it was like connection in the moment , but it often left me drained , exposed .I always felt what I have given away " 

 I said " Ram I feel sharing less is the real flex . It’s about preserving your power , your peace , and your ability to move freely without interference ," 

 Ram said " Madam it is true you don’t owe anyone your inner world unless they’ve earned it , and even then , maybe only parts of it you can share." 

 I said " Ram when you share less people wonder . They fill the gaps with their own assumptions," 

 Moral -Sharing of ideas and activities is good for relationships building but oversharing sometimes take away individual identity,therefore avoid over sharing .

 Are you also in habit of oversharing your ideas in life,if so avoid the same. 

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Let and let Live

 Everyone of us talk,

About good or bad ,

With everyone around.

Here I am with you,

I am your favourite gossip.

When I(gossip) am good about particular  person,

I improve person’s reputation ,

Then  that person wants more

of me (gossip) .

When I(gossip) am bad about particular person ,

Person particular avoids me,

So that I do not make person’s,

Reputation ugly.

But  there are some people,

Who have  habit of speaking ,

About everyone behind their backs.

They are always involved ,

In nothing but ’backbiting’

It makes people around person  particular involved,

Curious, concerned and disgusted.

Oh dear   friends,

We are fortunate ,

And blessed with,

So many  amenities,

Please do some activities,

Constructive and positive,

Express our gratitude  to,

Allmighty for every thing unique.

Friends we are not here,

To stab on our  friend’s back ,

We are not here to disturb,

Cultivated Peace and love,

Let us stop activity of backbiting.

Some may ask,

What is cost of

Backbiting habits?

It looses our values,

Of moral and ethics .

With waste ful activity of backbiting,

Strong relationships bridges,

We are hurting ,

And throwing,

Belief and trust ,

Of other friends ,

Into basket  fake, 

Backbiting persons,

Sometimes use friends ,

Then abuse them.

Please do soul searching,

What are  we achieving,

Are we going to live,

In this world just for backbiting, 

And not for giving???

These unethical activities,

Of backbiting  have effects negative,

On personality  of my deprived friends ,

Who sometimes  share their emotions,

But our fake world  of backbiting,

Laughs and giggles on their expressed emotions.

Please think deeply,

Are we here in thinking,

Of only for our gains,

Not for thinking of others pain,

Backbiting and negative gossip,

When we do,

Throughout our life,

It becomes an indispensable,

Part of our modern life.

God please help us,

To open our eyes,

And of other friends wise.

Let us remain away from,

Backbiting and lies.

Time will show us ,

Its consequences distratous styles.

Friends let us shake our hands,

Let us not get involved in,

Activities  of backbiting,

And make sure that,

We  manage ourself ,

And mold our life way,

In “Live and let live”

Golden rule slogan of time.

Let us make this our goal,

Till we merge our body ,

With great soul.

Let us remember “Wise men,

 Speak because they have something to say,

Fools because they have to say something” —- Plato

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Sukarma Thareja

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I write to make Science easy through Poetry & Photos 📸📖

🌐 Website: https://sites.google.com/site/drsukarmaranithareja/home

📝 Blog: https://sukarmathareja.blogspot.com/?ncr=1

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🇮🇳 Hindi: Kishor Chetna

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🇺🇸 English 1: Making Science Easy - Photo Poetry

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🇺🇸 English 2: Science of Life and Nature - Photo Poetry 

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Relatioships and Path

 There is unique relationship between relatioship bridges and life  path on which we walk.

When you walk on life path you find strong relationship. 

When you are in good relationship you find good life path.

Therefore keep walking on life path  and make strong  relationship  bridges.

Happiness is like chandan pasted on forehead.

 When who paste chandan on some ones forehead you get smell on  your fingers while the one who gets privilege  of chandan being pasted on forehead also get fragrance. It becomes  a win win situation. 

Moral- Never be miser in making. Strong relationship bridges while walking on life path.

Are you in process of making  strong  relationship  bridges if so please  keep moving forward. 

Sukarma Thareja

I write to make Science easy through Poetry & Photos 📸📖

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🇮🇳 Hindi: Kishor Chetna

https://www.amazon.in/dp/B077H5MBSW

🇺🇸 English 1: Making Science Easy - Photo Poetry

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🇺🇸 English 2: Science of Life and Nature - Photo Poetry 

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Balance What you Have and what you can Do

I am a science teacher in a government school. My student Sanju was very good in Physics. She was always interested in going for higher #studies. But unfortunately, she got second class in her M.Sc degree. Therefore she could not even get # a scholarship to go abroad to study.

She joined a small IT #company in her local town. She was not happy with her #job. She was trying hard to fetch a better job.

She had a younger brother Arjun studying in school. He was taking private #tution to gain good efficiency in maths and physics. Sanju was supporting her brother Arjun for the same by giving her tuition fees every month.

Fortunately in between, Sanju’s parents settled her arranged #marriage. Sanju was very much #disappointed.

 I said “Dear Sanju it is okay to feel disappointed. I agree you are unhappy as after marriage you may not be able to support Arjun financially. But remember dear student your #moral support to Arjun is very much needed at this phase of his life.”

I further said” Dear student you are starting a new phase of your life. Do not let this disappointment consume you. Be hopeful in life. It’s natural to #wish for more for your brother Arjun, but not at the cost of your #well-being. Peace comes from finding #balance between what is and what you can do. Please never lose this #balance in life.”

Sanju understood that it is good to focus on what's within my control and use what I already possess to achieve my goals, rather than waiting for ideal conditions. 

Sanju accepted my advice and started her married life with hope and #enthusiasm. I as a teacher am so happy to see my student #happily settled in her life.

Moral: The best is to make a balance between What you have and what you can do.

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🇮🇳 Hindi: Kishor Chetna

https://www.amazon.in/dp/B077H5MBSW

🇺🇸 English 1: Making Science Easy - Photo Poetry

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🇺🇸 English 2: Science of Life and Nature - Photo Poetry 

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Alumnus  IITK 

 

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Algebra to success

Algebra to Success 

 I am science teacher in government school.After teaching small chemistry conncept, as home work assignment I ask students to read #NCERT BOOK and write the description of concept in their own words. 

Algebra to Success

I am science teacher in government school.After

 teaching small chemistry conncept,

as home work assignment I ask students

 to read #NCERT BOOK and

write the description of concept in

 their own words.

Reading-Writing-Doing

 To write difference between #boiling and #evaporation

 some intelligent students draw the #diagrams

 and also look into you tube videos if possible

and then write the #difference in two

 above mentioned concepts.

I as teacher always

 encourage and appreciate those students who

 use internet in #positive way.I also inspire

 #other students to follow the same

procedure to get #success in life. 

If time permits I make #arrangements

for students and show chemistry 

 experiment explaining a particular concept 

in lab which I have taught to my students in 

theory class.This activity gives them hands

 on experience in life.

Some students do ask me 

question"Madam why are you so particular 

about our reading and writing habits."

To answer those students about same

 I wrote small article :Reading-Writing-Doing"

 for benefit of my students and pasted the same on

notice board of my school.

The same I am listing below for my esteem

readers.

Dear students"I as teacher wish my students to

 give good description of any thing or

 phenomenon when ever they are asked to do so.

Writing good description of 'any phenomenon 

make students learn writing skill.

One should learn this important skill.

Prerequisite of learning this skill is

1.read a lot

2.write a lot

3.never hesitate to get hand on experience 

for assigned positive activities in life

There are three relevant questions students

 should know about above mentioned prerequisite.

1.how much to read

2.how practice of doing writing will

 help one with how to write.

3.how doing experiment in lab/in 

life/home front give one, hands on

experience of learning by doing.

Answer to above mentioned questions 

if one gets in "yes" format 

and forms his/her own limits about 'how much"

 one is sure to get success in life.

To conclude -dear students I as teacher try 

my best to make my students answer

above mentioned prerequisites of any skill 

in 'yes'format with her/his own set limit.

That is goal of my teaching.I hope

now you will appreciate my concerns for you.

Moral-one can learn only by doing 

  reading, writing or hands on experiences.

One cannot succeed in life unless one read a lot , 

write a lot and do hands on experiment a lot.

Sukarma Thareja

Alumnus IITK

India

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Crossings Boundaries in name of kindness

Other day I was talking to my old student Rajesh after attending  academic meeting at my school.

Rajesh said" Madam Setting limits on how much time you spend with someone, while still maintaining a positive and respectful connection is fundamental  equation of life work balance."

I had a student Bhajan. She was my next door neighbour. Bhajan had younger brother Raju.Unfortunately  Bhajan did not have father. Bhajan got #married in good family.

Bhajan's mother gave  her due share in form of #gifts and money in bank balance, what she really deserved.

Sometimes  Bhajan's mother used to cross her #boundaries of her giving capacity, also to #please Bhajan's  in laws.

Bhajan's mother used to say" madam, some how Bhajan's #expectations  are increasing. She is not realising , I have to keep enough money to myself so that I could take care of Raju's #education etc."

She further  said "Bhajan is taking undue advantage  of my #kindness. I can't cross my boundries  in name of my kindness. Madam I am sharing my feelings  with you.I hope you keep it to yourself."

I at once remembered  my friend Ramesh who said "one has to set limit to how much money and time one can spend with person x with whom one wishes to maintain good relationship."

I realized bhajan's mother is in fix about setting  limit to spending money and time at Bhajan in law's place.

Though Bhajan's mother was considerate for Bhajan's #feeling, but some how Bhajan was not able to #appreciate  the same. On the other hand Bhajan was thinking that her mother was lacking  #concern for her needs.

Bhajan was not able to understand that Striking a balance between kindness and #indifference is crucial in life.Her mother is trying to do same. Being nice or kind to daughter does not mean #sacrificing one's own needs or opinions.

Once I met Bhajan at family function I tried to explain same so that she could change her thinking about her mother.

• I said " dear Bhajan I understand may be sometimes your mother is declining your request that would significantly impact her workload. You understand your mother has to look after your younger brother also, therefore she some times sets her boindaries towards her finance and time. Please understand  her problems and her current commitments."
• I was happy my student Bhajan understood her mother's boundaries and maintained amicable relationship with her mother.
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Moral:Setting boundaries to x problem  in life can reduce stress and anxiety, improving overall mental health. 

To save time sometimes one has to say  no to social invitations. This saved time  can help one  recharge and prioritize one's own well-being

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Sukarma Thareja

I write to make Science easy through Poetry & Photos 📸📖

🌐 Website: https://sites.google.com/site/drsukarmaranithareja/home

📝 Blog: https://sukarmathareja.blogspot.com/?ncr=1

📚 My Books:

🇮🇳 Hindi: Kishor Chetna

https://www.amazon.in/dp/B077H5MBSW

🇺🇸 English 1: Making Science Easy - Photo Poetry

https://share.google/Iq6osO6YeHCYvfXYj

🇺🇸 English 2: Science of Life and Nature - Photo Poetry 

https://www.amazon.com/dp/1521260060

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