After Marriage

I never used to #help my mother in # household work.

I was always busy in my #academic and non-academic

 activities. 

After I got #married, I realized how much mothers

do a lot of hard work for the #family - cooking 

different types of #meals to satisfy

everyone’s needs, #cleaning everything big or

small. These are not easy things to do. 

 Mothers may not #accept that they sometimes feel

 that they are doing a #thankless job, but they are 

broken inside for #staying at home all 

the time and #waiting for kids to come home 

everyday. ( I know fathers do a lot of hard work) , but here 

I wish to concentrate on things that I realized

 after marriage. 

Cooking is a basic skill - it is not a man's 

Or a woman #skill, I treat cooking as something 

One does to #pamper oneself. 

 All this I realized after marriage.

I wish I had always been that way at home

 before the marriage, but #alas, I was not. 

If you happen to marry the right person and 

you get #lucky with the situations -marriage

 is #freedom. Parents won't be scared of 

What do you do anymore? But if luck is not in your

favour, things after marriage can be #complicated. 

.

After marriage, I realized home is where your

 #husband lives. Everything that you lived before

 Was #temporary. Before marriage, I always wanted

 to see my mother whenever I came home, like

 I will be #shouting, ma, “ from the door itself

 until I find her.

 Now, after marriage, I search for #him(husband).

After marriage, priorities change in life.

Marriages are very hard to work on,

 but the only way it works is when - “

Both of them wanted to make it work” .#Respect for

Each other is key. 

This also

I realized after marriage.

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Algebra of personality Traits

I am a science teacher in a government school. Students sometimes have heated #arguments among themselves on burning issues. Sometimes, to clear their concept, like # self-respect, # self-discipline and # self-confidence, they will ask me a few relevant questions about the same. 

My submissions were as follows

I said "self respect' as the name suggests, to do something positive in life, one should respect # oneself. # Self-care is pre prerequisite of # self-respect. One should know one's poor and #strong qualities. What one likes from inside is an indication of positive qualities. Outside #pressure can not yield a person down who has # self-respect. 

# Self-discipline is incorporating good qualities in oneself by working outside one's comfort zone. # Self-discipline comes from inside and not from outside. Self self-disciplined person works on oneself to get #desired results. 

Self-respect + self-discipline confidence.

This algebraic equation describes the relationship between two important #personality traits. A person with # self-confidence can do many hard things without pain and mental agitation. A person with self-confidence can fulfill and nurture his/her needs and excel in his/her passion. 

Moral: To do #positive things in one's life, one should work on building self-confidence in one's personality. 

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Lesson from Lush Green Tapestry

 

Satpuna unique dense forest is nested in #tapestry of Madhya Pradesh(India). Eco walk in its #lush greenery greets one extremely beautiful nature. It's rich #biodiversity offers an unforgettable experience.

My uncle Vardan Kohli was a forest officer and was posted in #satpura forest. Whenever  Kohli uncle used to come for an official assignment to our metro city, he would make a point to visit us also. Once he came with his assistant Raju. Raju was a local boy living in Satpuna forest and did not know how to speak English. Raju used to play with children. His #sports skills were very good. Therefore, every child in our colony was fond of Raju.

When Raju went back to #Satpuna Jungle, he told his friends about the culture of the city that he visited with Mr Kohli.

Raju's father knew how to write in the English language. He wrote a small article describing #culture in big cities-as told by his son Raju to him. My uncle told me the contents of the same  on the phone. To help my students know about #Raju's experiences in Metro City, I wrote a small article and pasted it on the notice board of the school. The same I am listing below for my esteemed readers.

In big metro cities, there are hardly any person who wishes to learn from the experiences of #senior citizens.Every child thinks that he/she is very intelligent. Hardly any child takes lassi and #curd in their everyday diet. On one hand, they continuously keep complaining about #soar throat and #nose blocking problems. On the other hand, they prefer drinking tea and strongly believe tea gives them a lot of #comfort. On social front, they hardly #write letters to each other but are fond of sending #messages on what's up on their mobile phone. They spend many hours sitting in the #air conditioner. Children go to school with very heavy bags which contain a lot of copies and #heavy books. Every person is surrounded by a lot of #materialistic comfort-giving apparatus, but somehow everyone in the city is feeling #uncomfortable and is not at peace with oneself in this metro cities.

But  Raju was very happy living in #satpuna dense forest. He felt near to nature, where hardly any facilities available in #metro cities were available to Raju. Satpuna forest gives Raju peace and a feeling of being near to God-a pure bliss and #tranquility.

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Letting go

 Found this so beautiful 🌹

Letting Go: The Grace in Accepting Change

There was a time when we believed we had control over everything—our days, our children, our careers, even the direction of life itself. We planned carefully, held tight to dreams, routines, people. And perhaps that was needed then. Life asked us to build, to care, to lead, to protect.

But slowly, life shifts.

One by one, the things we held so tightly start slipping away—not always with pain, but sometimes with quiet dignity.

The children grow up and move away—not out of disregard, but because they must build their own lives.

Beloved homes are sold, not because they weren't cherished, but because climbing those stairs became harder.

Our roles—as manager, mother, engineer, teacher—fade into the background, like names written in soft sand.

And then, there is a moment—a quiet afternoon, perhaps—when we look around and realise: life has changed.

The people we used to call every day now send messages. The faces around us are new. Even our own reflection carries gentle lines we never noticed forming.

But instead of grief, something else begins to settle in.

A kind of peace.

We understand, slowly, that letting go is not about losing. It’s about making room—for stillness, for peace, for reflection.

Letting go means allowing our hearts to carry memories without chains.

It means accepting that we are no longer the centre of the world—but we are still part of it, deeply and beautifully.

Letting go is not weakness. It is grace—the grace of the river that flows forward, not resisting the rocks, but dancing around them.

It is in these years—when the world becomes quieter—that we learn the true strength of acceptance.

We hold less, but we feel more.

We chase less, but we appreciate more.

We speak less, but what we say carries depth.

And so we sit by the window, sip our tea, and smile—not because life was perfect, but because we lived, we loved, and we let go… with grace.

I am listing  my poem 'Let go Life With Grace" below for my esteem readers.

Let go  Life With Grace

In age young in life ,

When we were studying STEM,

We had Our roles, 

As manager, mother,

 Engineer, teacher and home makers,

Life asked us to build,

 To care, to lead, to protect.

But with time, slowly

life shifts.like sand in our fist,

One by one,

 The things we held so tightly ,

Start slipping away,

Not  with pain always,

 But sometimes with quiet dignity.

Our Children started,

Having their ambitions,

 Their own lives. they built,

Hence they drove away from  the parents ,

Big houses are no longer cherished ,

Our roles—as manager, mother, 

engineer, teacher and home maker,

In background got drifted away.

A kind of peace begins to settle in life,

There are quiet afternoons in labs,

We start understanding, slowly, 

We are not losing,

Our hard core identity,

We have just accepted,

 Somewhere process of letting go,

We are holding less, 

but we are feeling more.

We are chasing less, 

But we are appreciating more.

Science  and its applications,

We are speaking less, 

but what we say carries depth.

Friends let us, sip our tea, 

and smile with grace,

not because our life was perfect, 

But because we lived, we loved  ,

We did something positive ,

With STEM training   ,

For nation and for society,   

and gradually we are letting ,

go our life with grace.

Sukarma Thareja 

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Everyday is Beautiful

 Ruby aunty was my neighbor. She was a teacher in a primary school. Unfortunately, she lost her husband at a young age. She had five daughters to support. She was very courageous. I observed she would work hard on her daughters so that one day they could be on their feet. 

Unfortunately, I lost contact in between with her for about ten years. After a decade, I was so happy to meet her. She was as strong as she was ten years ago. Two of her daughters were married and doing very well in life. Ruby aunty did not forget to talk about her past hard days. She was hopeful that things would be positive for her and her daughters in the coming days. I was so happy that Ruby aunty is keeping her past intact with her and learning from her past. She also had hope of having a good future for herself and her family. 

While talking to Ruby aunty, I found how wonderfully she is still in contact with people who helped her in the past and who are helping her in the present. Her energy levels made me salute her. She was an efficient manager of her life. Her social skills are excellent there fore her every day is beautiful. 

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Professional Courses to Join

 One day, I was talking to my student at the #metro station

while going back from school to home.

 The student was very much confused. He asked me, "Wherever

I go, many of my friends always discuss which academic or

#professional courses we should try to get into to make large

amount of money in the shortest time."

I replied, See, dear student, earning money can be through

two channels

1. One gives one's services and in return gets paid.

2. One sells some material goods to others and, in

return, gets money.

Earning in any way with honesty demands a lot of hard work

and dedication.

Some #young minds may think of cheaper ways of earning fast money.

For sure, my student, those ways may #fascinate one, but in the real sense, one can be behind bars one day

or another.

It is okay, one may earn less. But money earned in #legal way

with honesty is best. Never think that job X is not suited

because society thinks a particular job is very low. This is not

right. One should lay hands on that particular job, where

 one feels #comfortable. That job in particular gives one

 A lot of #satisfaction and one has the potential to expand one's job. 

 Moral of the Story: One should always follow one's passion

 Sincerely, money itself will flow. 

 

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Aging with Grace

Son - Mom! As you are getting old I am observing you are becoming #rich in various experiences.

Mom- yes son! I am becoming rich in other dimensions also. See dear! I have got #silver(precious metal) hair.

Son- yes mom! I do notice your tooth is covered with #golden ( precious metal) metal.

Mom- son! Do you know my blood is rich in #sugar also?

Son -oh I see Mom! You are diabetic now. You are taking medicines to control your blood sugar levels.

Mom- I have grown rich in #stones also.

Son – I know the other day you showed me small stones which the surgeon has taken out from #kidney.

Mom- son! They are not precious #stones.

Son- Mom! You are amazing. You explained all physical changes in your body with the help of appropriate #metaphors.

Mom -yes son! To make you understand all the changes I am going through at this old age I have put appropriate #analogy for each change.

Son -Mom! You are great. You are rich in experience, and rich in expressing emotions with appropriate analogy.

Mom -dear son! As a person gets old there are changes in the color of hair, the shapes of teeth, # the chemistry of blood, and the functioning of important #organs of the body.

Son-mom! doctors also recommend checking each of above mentioned changes in the body in the technical #laboratory.

Mom – son I have been doing so now and then. I am thankful to the almighty for these important indicators which help me to age gracefully

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