Inherited Gifts and Relationships Bridges

 The other day I was answering students' relevant questions about what are  main gifts one gets  from God which can give someone a huge edge over others:

My  submissions were as follows

1. Being born in a developed country,2. being born in a rich family, 3, being born with good looks.

My explanation of above above-listed facts was as follows

Let me explain why. Being born in a developed country friends one has access to better education, health care, infrastructure, and opportunities than most people in the world. One doesn't have to worry about war, famine, disease, or poverty as much as someone who lives in a less fortunate place. One also has more freedom and rights to pursue one's dreams and goals. One gets opportunities to do part time job.This facilities help mothers.

Being born in a rich family means one has more resources and support to achieve one's potential. One doesn't have to struggle to make ends meet or work hard to pay for one's education or basic needs. One can afford to travel, learn new skills, start a business, or do whatever one wants. One also has more connections and influence to get ahead in one's career or society.One should be grateful  for these blessings  and use the same for doing good in society. 

Being born with good looks means one has more advantages in social situations and relationships. One is more likely to attract attention, admiration, and love from others. One is more likely to be perceived as confident, intelligent, and trustworthy. One also has more opportunities to benefit from one's appearance, such as getting better jobs, deals, or favors. Sometimes  surrounding  people make person with  good looks work in wrong direction. One should  be careful from these negative  personalities. 

One doesn't choose where one is born, who one's parents are, or how one looks. One just inherits them from one's genes and environment. And yet they can make a huge difference in one's life chances and opportunities.

There are other relationships that one builds 

These relationships are to be developed with trust, respect and honesty. Emotional intelligence, positive attributes of one's personality and trust contribute to these relationships.

Unfortunately some sometimes it happens that one happens to show one's worst qualities to one's life partner or relationship. Friends, please never do that. Please do build trust with your partner in marriage or a relationship. In other words, be willing to give as well as receive. It is necessary for both partners to feel comfortable with the level of giving and receiving.

The moral of the story is that one should be thankful for the gifted traits given by God in the form of DNA and environment, and should always use them for the right cause in the right direction in life.

Similarly one should build relationships in life like making bridges( building a bridge between body and soul through YOGA) and avoid making walls in life through one's honesty, trust and intelligence

 

Sukarma Thareja

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Dynamics From House to Home

 A party is being organised at  Khanna Club. The theme of discussion at the party is house/home.

Ms Jyoti-Hello friends, it is pouring heavily outside. I am pleased to see members of our club have come on time. The theme of our discussion at the party today is House/Home. As we don’t have much time on hand, and each member of our club has some other commitment to meet. Therefore, I request every respectable member to speak about their view, enlightening the theme. I request Ms Gita to summarise the contents of all members of the club and conclude about the theme, and if possible, give her own opinion about the theme.

Ms Joshi-I live in a very big traditional type of bungalow. I have two caretakers, due to the ongoing pandemic, they take all precautions like social distancing to organise my balconies, rooms and garages. Sometimes I feel life is still very messy in this house. I wish to request other members of the club to give me some valuable tips to make my house to home.

Ms Gracy-I live in a duplex house. We have a lovely terrace where we have planted many lovely seasonal plants. It is difficult to go up and down very often. So we have to plan our activities with respect to the constraint. In spite of all my positive efforts and precautions taken, like maintaining social distance, wearing a mask, etc, due to the pandemic some sometimes life seems to be messy in my duplex house. Valuable comments and tips from respected members will mean so much to me.

Ms Sita-I live in 3 bed 3-bedroom flat in a big posh society, where there is a big swimming pool. A beautiful garden in the centre of society and a neat walking path for every member to walk on is a big facility for us. There is no security problem. Due to the ongoing pandemic, I take all precautions, yet I sometimes feel suffocated in my flat. Valuable suggestions from respected members to make my house to home are blessings for me.

Ms Shabana- I  live near river riverfront over a small hill. My house is moderately big. A scene from my house window is a treat to the eyes. There is a power cut of electricity sometimes. In the rainy season, sometimes the river overflows, and sometimes a feeling of uncertainty remains with us for an hour or two in the house.  There is NO problem with the availability of drinking water also. We solve all problems from time to time in the pandemic, yet the house becomes messy. Friends, I request you to kindly give me some suggestions to make my house to home.

Ms Gita-Friends, I have been asked to conclude the discussion by Ms. Joshi. Friends, I live in a very ordinary house which is in the outer skirts of the city. I have a little garden which is being taken care of by myself and members of my family as and when we get time. As I am a writer-poetess, I am not able to fetch a big salary. I take help from house housekeeper once a week only. In the ongoing pandemic, I have been enjoying my life by writing. I feel twice happy when my poem is published in a magazine or website

 I appreciate all the positive aspects and problems faced in every house by every member of our club in their respective houses during the ongoing pandemic. It is also a fact that no house can be perfect. What I am going to say today is no recipe to prescribe dos and don'ts for any house. Members of my esteemed club may not agree with my opinion. My humble experience of decades as a poetess, my views about the house in the ongoing pandemic are something different from what my other club members expressed today. I very humbly want to submit that no matter how well-organised are rooms, balconies verandas are in one's house, life is good at home in the ongoing pandemic when it gets converted to a home. In my opinion, this is possible only when things are sorted in mind(where we keep things messy) of every member residing in a particular house. Many times, I have experienced that if any member of a particular household keeps feelings like regret, expectation, secrets, worries, comparisons,  jealousy, complexes in their mind and heart, the mood of that particular household is different.There are feelings of insecurity and uncertainty in the atmosphere of that house. Friends, though these things look minor, they play a very important role in converting a house into a homestay during the ongoing pandemic. For sure, if not taken care of with respect to time, the house will have some sort of mess in spite of all the physical comforts available in the house. I have been a student of science. Vibration in quantum physics means everything is energy. Any feeling causes one to emit a vibration that can be positive or negative. To become a source of inspiration for youngsters specially in pandemic time, one should try to emit positive vibrations in their surroundings

 My humble submission, friends, is, to convert a house into a real home during the pandemic, we must try to practice keeping away from anger, regret, ego problems, and not expecting too much from each other as far as possible. Avoid thinking that so and so is happier than me. In difficult times like a pandemic, do every activity with good, positive intentions in mind, which simply means housekeeping starts from ourselves self that too from our mind. In our real home ours we no doubt outsource housekeeping, which is a good practice, but it is not complete to make our house –real home. We must carry out every activity in a simple, straightforward manner with good intentions and a clear mind. We must listen to our hearts and keep doing the activity of charity to help our souls. Since feelings speak louder than words. When each member of the family think and acts so, things in the house will roll automatically with time, and the dynamics of a real  home will become examples of inspiration for others to live in a real home during the pandemic.

 

Dr Sukarma Rani Thareja,

Associate Professor-Retired

CSJM University

Alumnus IIT-K-1986

KANPUR , UP

INDIA

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Home Maker Scientist

 My mom is a brilliant homemaker,

She thinks like a scientist,

She keenly  observes animal earth and sky,

She asks good questions to me, wondering,

how and what and why,

she makes smart guesses,

hypothesizing what might happen and when.

She does cool experiments,

Also while cooking and housekeeping,

Sometimes she tests,

My scientific knowledge,

 Also by asking many,

Smart questions to me,

 Which makes me think deeply,

That also clears my fundamentals about life.

She makes the best,

 Use of a smart smartphone,

She records pictures of nature,

And cooking procedures,

She thinks all through that,

 She has done in a day,

Concluding what she should have done,

Wondering, asking, trusting and concluding;

Is a way of her simple and graceful life,

This is what scientists also do.

My mother tells me,

If you want to be a woman scientist, 

You must do what I do,

I ask myself why my mother,

 Is called just a homemaker,

Doesn’t she deserve,

 The title of scientist-home maker?

 Sukarma Rani Thareja

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Activity decresing fun of birthday party

 

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For every child birthday celebration is an occasion to look forward to. At every age, children have something special that they love to eat, for example, pizza, potato chips, and cupcakes are their favourite staples. These eatables have hardly any nutrition in them.

It's ok to give children some special experiences at their birthday party. But overemphasizing material gifts or return gifts does not add any new experience to children who have come to the party for fun. 

Looking back at the landfill of plastic return gifts, the only things that stand out are that children play with them for a while, and those return gifts become plastic garbage. Are we really ready for all this? Please do ask yourself this question too. The answer is a big "no".

The moral of the story is that friends for a child's birthday party are for fun, and let us not decrease its fun part by adding a return gift.

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Sukarma Thareja

Alumnus IITK 1986

India

Why value time

  Why value time?,

A question  so valid,

 Precious parameter of life,

is time,

Spend time with yourself,

Please donot chase people,

Who do not respect your time,

If you do so you are wasting  time.

Remember  "Stich in time saves nine"

Sense of time helps you in making,

achievements  in life.

Respect your time,

Also respect others time,

Great healer is time,

 A great teacher is time,

Biggest factor in life is time, 

Disciplined  life is there,

Because of time,

Perfect timing in life,

Brings lot of joy in life.

Therefore  friends respect,

And love time in life.

Sukarma Thareja 

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People Action

 We have a joint family.    We have a helper, Asha buaji, in our house. She is an elderly lady and walks with a little limp. But that does not slow her down in helping with the activity. Actually, Asha bua is present everywhere.

There are nine kids in our house. Asha bua knows the grades of every kid in our house. She keeps track of the classes of every kid at home. She keeps instructing the cook at home to hurry up with the food so that nobody gets late for the office or school.

I don’t remember a time when I came home and always saw Asha bua doing something or other. I never saw Bua sitting idle. She was always full of energy. She is a shoulder to cry on. A friendly ear to listen to kids' emotional problems. She is a gentle reminder to kids when they make a mistake or neglect their studies. She sees to it that elders are never without coffee, despite the occasional absence of raw coffee in our house. She is excellent at managing things.

Now I am away from home. I remember all those motherly traits of Asha bua. When I think of her, her limp is not the first thing that comes to mind. Her wrinkles seem an important part of her beauty. All I remember is her heart and the immense love she had for all of us. All I remember is her radiant smile when we called out"Asha Bua."

The moral of the story is friends People’s actions make them beautiful. And yes, my  Asha bua is supremely beautiful 

Sukarma Thareja 

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