Dynamics of Spouse Bonding

I am a science teacher in a government school. Radha, a teacher at our school recently got married. She happens to be married in # a joint family. 

Radha said "Madam my #husband expects that I should get up around 4. oo am in the morning and make breakfast for 10 people of the family before going to school. I am doing it, but  I feel so #stressed  out before  coming to school."

I said " Radha I do understand your stress. You should also realize, that when you go to a new family after marriage there are a lot of #adjustments both partners have to make. Kindly accept it as a #challenge. I am sure, you will be able to do it. I must say this is also not the right time to say no to your husband.  Gradually with time, he will also understand  this activity  is becoming #taxing on you."

Radha said, "I  was also thinking on the same line madam".

I said " Radha, please! Never speak negatively about your spouse either to your friend or to your family. It may look casual thing but sometimes talking #negative about your spouse to your friends becomes complicated. It will lead to negativity in your relationship. Therefore when you find an appropriate time, please talk to your spouse about the difficulty you are facing. This will make the bond between you and your spouse #stronger.

Radha said" I know madam honest communication and trust are two major factors that contribute to the strong bond between any relationship. "

I said," The Same fundamental  rule applies to the relationship  between husband and wife."

Moral - Third-party involvement in the relationship of two partners(spouse) is always going to create negativity around them. Follow this most important rule in life.

Trust and communication are two important apps that make any relationship wonderful and strong.

Please avoid interference  of 3rd party when you are establishing  relationship. 

Are you also too much interfering  when two persons  are in process of making relationship if so please avoid that.

Sukarma Thareja 

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🇺🇸 English 1: Making Science Easy - Photo Poetry
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🇺🇸 English 2: Science of Life and Nature - Photo Poetry 
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Dual personality

 

Dual Personality

They think they are wise,

They change their face,

 According to every challenge,

Like a broken bucket , 

No matter how much you fill,

 It stays empty.

They believe if they keep changing faces, 

No one will catch them,

But truth is...,

 They are only cheating themselves.  

The best way, my friend,

 Is to face every challenge ,

With the same face,

Do not be cheater.

Moral is friend,

Be bold when you lose,

Be calm when you win.

Sukarma Thareja 

Are you also living with a dual personality?  

 If yes, think twice.  

Don't act while facing challenges.  

Face them with peace and determination.

As you know a cheater  will always remain cheater.

Sukarma Thareja
I write to make Science easy through Poetry & Photos 📸📖

🌐 Website: https://sites.google.com/site/drsukarmaranithareja/home
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🇮🇳 Hindi: Kishor Chetna
https://www.amazon.in/dp/B077H5MBSW

🇺🇸 English 1: Making Science Easy - Photo Poetry
https://share.google/Iq6osO6YeHCYvfXYj

🇺🇸 English 2: Science of Life and Nature - Photo Poetry 
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1521260060

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Mother to Own Mother

When I was young. I used to do so many big small mistakes. My mother used to teach me everything needful to face difficult  situations  in life. At that age I never realized that what a big protection shield I am blessed with in form of mother.

With age I realized that #life is not like mother.  It will not embrace me in its arms as my dear mother used to do and it will not help me in difficult  time.

I used to do self- talk. I said "dear you have to fight at every stage of life for your decent #survival. This survival is to be based on your own #skills  You can never get #support system what your mother used to provide you.  You need to fight and survive on your own and learn to be your #own mother.

Moral-Essentially at one point in life  self-mothering is best option to live peaceful life.

 When you become your own loving and supportive presence, you provide  care and guidance you need to move forward.

Are you self mothering yourself.If not please do it.zIt is very essential for peaceful life. 

Sukarma Thareja 

Sukarma Thareja
I write to make Science easy through Poetry & Photos 📸📖

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📚 My Books:
🇮🇳 Hindi: Kishor Chetna
https://www.amazon.in/dp/B077H5MBSW

🇺🇸 English 1: Making Science Easy - Photo Poetry
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🇺🇸 English 2: Science of Life and Nature - Photo Poetry 
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Sukarma Thareja

Alumnus IITK

Letting go of Past Stories

I have a childhood friend Cukoo. She is now settled in the US. My friend has evolved as a beautiful person by accepting life changes peacefully. 

 The other day Cuckoo came into my dreams and said "Dear friend though both of us have wonderfully settled in our respective lives but dear friend it is so difficult to change and let go of small stories we two shared in our childhood". 

 I said, "Dear Cuckoo we humans are like a piece of fabric, made of hundreds of threads of stories we have been telling ourselves for our entire lives." 

 Cuckoo said "Dear friend the reason we are so afraid to let go of our stories is that as soon as we start letting go of one story, then another, the fabric that once made us confident is now being torn apart. We feel we are falling into nothingness. We start thinking gradually we will simply become empty."

 I said, "Dear Cukoo as we try so hard to let those small stories of our lives go, we 8feel resistance building up in our bodies."

 Cuckoo said, "Yes dear friend It’s so painful as if my self and you together are cutting away something valuable and significant from myself and yourself that is from our identity; something, which, at some point, has come to define me and you and our meaningful life."

 I said " I and you are not whole or complete anymore, because the stories that we shared in childhood and adolescent age to make us complete are now slowly going away from us and we feel somewhat empty, we feel lost, and confused. To conclude suppressing our life

 experiences is not a healthy trend in life." 

 I said Cukoo "Sometimes I choose to view those stories as shoes or clothes we used to share and exchange at certain phases of our lives. I am grateful to them as those stories, like clothes, protected us from heat and cold or, like shoes, they took us from place A to place B. 

 Cukoo said "Yet, it’s important to acknowledge that we have grown up. We have got married and have beautiful kids and of course, with time our bodies have changed."

 I said "The clothes and shoes that once served us for important purposes, are not suitable for us any longer, they simply do not fit you or me " 

 Cukoo said, "Dear friend, we do not reject the idea that once we used to wear certain shoes or clothes, we embrace that fact till today and we are in peace with same." 

 I said "As I am letting go of my past stories, sometimes it’s so scary and takes so much of my courage. I feel if I may not reduce to zero for a while, and sit without knowing who I am. I further said" I am OK with not having any clear answer to the question “What is my story” 

 Cuckoo said" Dear friend do not feel scared. Now the time has come to start weaving a new fabric of our identity with the threads of new empowering stories from the US and India respectively." 

 Cuckoo further said, "But friend what’s different this time is that time has come we have new stories in life which wove our identity of you and me respectively." 

 I said, "In this modern era of science and technology due to our strong past experiences we will not resist changes in our lives and will accept the new stories and let them go gradually with time to accept change in life."

 Moral- Let us embrace our new stories and gradually let them go with time. Let us be ready to change when the time to change will come. 

Sukarma Thareja
I write to make Science easy through Poetry & Photos 📸📖

🌐 Website: https://sites.google.com/site/drsukarmaranithareja/home
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📚 My Books:
🇮🇳 Hindi: Kishor Chetna
https://www.amazon.in/dp/B077H5MBSW

🇺🇸 English 1: Making Science Easy - Photo Poetry
https://share.google/Iq6osO6YeHCYvfXYj

🇺🇸 English 2: Science of Life and Nature - Photo Poetry 
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Right life

 

Many ideas stick with me for right life

1.With time If we try to make life simpler it means we are moving toward right life.

2 With time our desire to buy materialistic things decrease it means we are moving toward right life.

3.With time if degree of contentment in personality increases we are moving toward right life.

4.With time we decrease our habit of comparing things we have or money we have ,we are moving toward right life.

5.With time if we feel happiness of others it means we are moving toward right life.

6.With time when we do not need vacation from our work it means we are moving toward right life.

Are you also following any one of indicator listed above to move toward right life?

Please comment.

Sukarma Thareja

Sukarma Thareja
I write to make Science easy through Poetry & Photos 📸📖

🌐 Website: https://sites.google.com/site/drsukarmaranithareja/home
📝 Blog: https://sukarmathareja.blogspot.com/?ncr=1

📚 My Books:
🇮🇳 Hindi: Kishor Chetna
https://www.amazon.in/dp/B077H5MBSW

🇺🇸 English 1: Making Science Easy - Photo Poetry
https://share.google/Iq6osO6YeHCYvfXYj

🇺🇸 English 2: Science of Life and Nature - Photo Poetry 
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Service Joy Correlations in Life

When I was young I used to think life was full of sweet dreams.

 I happen to be married in a joint family. I found life is nothing but service. I realized good service you give to others life becomes more #joyful and interesting. 

With time I found life gives you joy in the service of others is unimaginable. In the process, I found myself near #mother nature and near to God. Now my life is full of wonderful countless experiences that are difficult to describe. 

With the grace of God, I am blessed with strength and a value system, which help me #practice doing services to all inside/outside family till today.

 The other day I was talking to my students about the correlation between service and joy.

 Ram said "Madam when we students experience the #positive effects of giving, we wish to repeat those actions. This creates a ripple effect of kindness in society." 

 I said, "Students when you enjoy serving others this can break the cycle of focusing solely on your personal needs and #desires, leading to a more meaningful and joyful life." 

 Radha said " Madam I find that serving others, rather than being served, brings me greater joy and fulfillment. "

 Mohan said "When I give with a spirit of sacrifice, it is especially rewarding and #transformative for me." 

 I said " Being a student of physics I believe that the joy in giving services to others is a powerful #force that can enhance both my well-being and the well-being of the community. "

 Do you also find joy in serving others.Please comment. 

 Sukarma Thareja 

I write to make Science easy through Poetry & Photos 📸📖 🌐 Website: https://sites.google.com/site/drsukarmaranithareja/home 📝 Blog: https://sukarmathareja.blogspot.com/?ncr=1 

 📚 My Books: 🇮🇳 Hindi: Kishor Chetna https://www.amazon.in/dp/B077H5MBSW 

 🇺🇸 English 1: Making Science Easy - Photo Poetry https://share.google/Iq6osO6YeHCYvfXYj 🇺🇸 English 2: Science of Life and Nature - Photo Poetry https://www.amazon.com/dp/1521260060 💡 Note: If blog doesn't open, use VPN or add ?ncr=1 🙏 Thank you for reading!6

Behavior a Ladder

Behavior is a two-sided #sword. If your behavior is good there is a stair staircase that takes you to the top. If your behavior is bad you could go to the deep dark well of #hell. It is for an individual to decide.

 If one is wearing # a well-designed graceful present garment one may get very good comments about one's #looks and one may get respect in society. It is a mirror that knows a person's #outside picture. 

But you can never know inside of the same person. Behavior is an important #parameter that reflects a person's inside picture. Behavior is # the signature of a person's nature. 

 Good behavior marks a person as a good good-natured one. Good behavior gets written all over a person's personality. 

Sometimes behavior signature dominates so much, that people can predict a person's future. Well-groomed behavior #impresses teachers, friends and mentors. Even it impresses our #creator also. For such well-behaved persons, God himself opens doors of success.

 The good behavior of a person makes his associate prideful. Therefore please think twice before doing. Bad behavior. With bad behavior, you may likely fall into the well of #darkness and people start hating you. Therefore think twice before behaving with any person x in life.

Are you also trying to get success by climbing different ladders in life?.Please work on behavior ladder which can grant you success in every field of life. 

 Moral- Ladders are more than just tools for reaching heights—they have long been symbols of ambition, transformation, and connection. In simple language ladder is a tool for reaching heights. Heights are symbols of ambition and transformations. These symbols can be achieved by using behavior ladder.

 Sukarma Thareja

 I write to make Science easy through Poetry & Photos 📸📖 🌐 Website: https://sites.google.com/site/drsukarmaranithareja/home 📝 Blog: https://sukarmathareja.blogspot.com/?ncr=1 

 📚 My Books: 🇮🇳 Hindi: Kishor Chetna https://www.amazon.in/dp/B077H5MBSW 

 🇺🇸 English 1: Making Science Easy - Photo Poetry https://share.google/Iq6osO6YeHCYvfXYj 🇺🇸 English 2: Science of Life and Nature - Photo Poetry https://www.amazon.com/dp/1521260060 💡 Note: If blog doesn't open, use VPN or add ?ncr=1 🙏 Thank you for reading!6