I used to work for an IT company. After my marriage, for my IT job, I used to travel to the office, on assignment, five days a week. I was loaded with #deadlines. My salary was #credited every month, and people called me an” independent” woman.
After some time, I was blessed with a child. Raising a child was a big #pleasure for me. I decided to leave my job for a few years to raise my child comfortably.
I used to stay at home. I worked for the husband and family, #cooked for family. I used to decide what my family members should eat, so that they could have control over their health and #happiness. I took care of the children. I also monitored their growth, behavior and education, helped them with study and life problems, and tried my best to build their overall best #personality. I also managed the expenses of the house. I was happy with my# selfless contribution to family,
To my surprise, people around me now call me #“dependent” woman. I got the impression that people consider this path for women, as something like an act of #slavery. Being a mother and a homemaker, I searched for the dynamics of the same. The fundamental problem here was, people measured ‘being independent’ women with only money,
When I earned money, I was named an” independent” woman.Independeny woman is fancy term. In my opinion, I was not. I was only# financially” independent. After some soul searching, I concluded that, to start with, marriage is all about being interdependent; the husband brings in some value, and the wife brings in some value to make the marriage a beautiful experience for both of them. This ‘value’ need not always be money; It could be time, service, management, comfort, etc.
There is nothing wrong with being a house-husband or housewife, as long as the partner is okay with it. Being” independent” is just one fancy #imaginative term. A family, corporation, or any #ecosystem sustains because the people inside are interdependent. I wish society understood this basic #philosophy and stopped putting labels on women as “independent” or “dependent” women, and respected them for their selfless contributions to family, society and nation and named them as #“national pride.
Moral: Independent means 'Inert gas' while dependent means 'Life'
Sukarma Thareja
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