I was teaching in a government school. -curricular activity class student wanted me to discuss #perfect life. I asked the same questions to my students. They came up with several different answers.
I narrated one simple incident of my life to my students.
I met a distant relative, Geeta, at one of the family functions. She was a year or two younger than me. We were talking for a long time about the #dynamics of life. Geeta said, “Sister, your life is perfect. You earn. You have your in-laws to support you. You are older than me, and your daughter is five Years old. You established your #career before being a mother. My son is 10 years old, but my in-laws and husband are not in #favour - me going for a job.”
I told Geeta, “I have a job because I want to have one. If my in-laws weren't willing to take care of my daughter, then I would have #hired good help and would have tried my best that my family runs smoothly when I have responsibilities at work. If my in-laws or husband had asked me to stay back at home, I would have looked for an alternate solution like working from home, but I am not in favour of doing domestic work only. People may call me selfish. I do not mind this comment”.
“Job or money may not be a #happiness for everyone, but for me, it is something that gives me #positivity in life. I am sure it's a happiness for you as well.” Geeta nodded a yes.
Finally, with great courage, I told the truth to dear Geeta, “ For me, there is nothing wrong if sometimes I keep myself at a #priority”. I said,” Geeta, I am selfish and happy. In my opinion, one does a lot of things for others (one's kids, in-laws, husband), but in that exercise, one may be unhappy. People in the family consider you(Geeta) a #homely girl, and you take that as a #compliment and feel a sense of pride. I don't like such compliments for me. I believe in making work life #balance.”
The secret of a perfect life is how one sets out the #priorities of one’s life.
I said, “Geeta, I wanted to have a career, and I have that today. This is something that I have dreamt of having from a very young age. I have built my career very carefully over the last many years. This journey consists of hard work, appreciations, #smiles, learnings, insults, tears, and #warnings.”
We all dream of living a beautiful life but we can't have it all the time, as we have to choose. The question is, choose what?. The answer is to sometimes choose our happiness over others.
Moral of Story-No one can lead a #perfect life. We have to compromise on something, somewhere. You just need to ensure that you don't #compromise on something that you #need the most.
Sukarma Thareja
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