People Pleasing

I am a science teacher in a government school. I am in charge of the co-curricular activities of my school.

Another day Rakesh student in class 11th of my school asked"Madam is people-pleasing a weakness or strength of a character? Madam, I do understand that people pleasing persons in all circumstances try to please x person, they try to #control what someone else thinks of him/her".

I said "Rakesh generally people pleasing activities are not thought to be a good thing.  The logic behind this thought is people pleasers tend to neglect their own needs to please others. They eventually become a #doormat that others walk on. "

I further said"People-pleasing activities may initially bring positive praise and acceptance, but over time it can have negative effects on individuals and their #relationships. Persons who rely on the “people pleaser” will also become #dependent on them. In the process, dependent persons also lose their identity. Their relationship no longer remains happy and strong."

 Rakesh said"Madam It stems from a desire to be liked, avoid #conflict, and gain approval, but can lead to negative sometimes. But it is a strength when it comes from a genuine place and cause of wanting to #help others."

I said " May be true. But according to me saying "no" is key to getting out of the cycle of unhealthy people pleasing."

It stems from a desire to be liked, avoid conflict, and gain approval, but can lead to negative consequences like burnout, #resentment, and a loss of self-identity. 

Moral- people-pleasing activities have no limits and boundaries. Therefore people pleaser persons become #confused and lose their identity in due 

People-pleasing is a shortcut to getting things done in life in a short time.  Pleasing activities have negative consequences like burnout, resentment, and a loss of self-identity and individuality.

Sukarma Thareja
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